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Breakup

A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup,[1] is the termination of an intimate relationship by any means other than death. The act is commonly termed "dumping [someone]" in slang when it is initiated by one partner. The term is less likely to be applied to a married couple, where a breakup is typically called a separation or divorce. When a couple engaged to be married breaks up, it is typically called a "broken engagement".

Susie Orbach (1992) has argued that the dissolution of dating and cohabiting relationships can be as painful as or more painful than divorce because these nonmarital relationships are less socially recognized.[2]

Contents

  • Models 1
    • Stages leading to a breakup 1.1
    • Cycle of a breakup 1.2
    • Factors that predict a breakup before marriage 1.3
  • Uncoupling theory 2
  • See also 3
  • References 4

Models

Several psychological models have been proposed to explain the process of a relationship breakup, many suggesting that 'relationship dissolution occurs in stages'.[3]

Stages leading to a breakup

L. Lee[4] proposes that there are five stages ultimately leading up to a breakup.

  1. Dissatisfaction – one or both partners grow dissatisfied with the relationship
  2. Exposure – both partners mutually become aware of the problems in the relationship
  3. Negotiation – both partners attempt to negotiate a solution to problems
  4. Resolution and transformation – both partners apply the outcome of their negotiation
  5. Termination – proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied

Cycle of a breakup

Steve Duck outlines a six-stage cycle of relationship breakup,[5] including

  1. Dissatisfaction with the relationship
  2. Social withdrawal
  3. Discussion of the reasons for the discontentment
  4. Going public
  5. Tidying up the memories
  6. Recreating sense of one's own social value

Factors that predict a breakup before marriage

Hill, Rubin and Peplau[6] identify 5 factors that predicted breakup before marriage:

  1. Unequal involvement in the relationship
  2. Age difference
  3. Educational aspirations
  4. Intelligence
  5. Physical attractiveness

Uncoupling theory

In 1976, sociologist Diane Vaughan proposed an "uncoupling theory," where there exists a "turning point" in the dynamics of relationship breakup - 'a precise moment when they "knew the relationship was over," when "everything went dead inside"' - followed by a transition period in which one partner unconsciously knows the relationship is going to end, but holds on to it for an extended period, even for years.[7]

Vaughan considered that the process of breakup was asymmetrical for initiator and respondent: the former 'has begun mourning the loss of the relationship and has undertaken something tantamount to a rehearsal, mentally and, to varying degrees, experientially, of a life apart from the partner'.[8] The latter then has to play catch-up: 'to make their own transition out of the relationship, partners must redefine initiator and relationship negatively, legitimating the dissolution'.[9]

As a result, for Vaughan 'getting out of a relationship includes a redefinition of self at several levels: in the private thoughts of the individual, between partners, and in the larger social context in which the relationship exists'.[10] She considered that 'uncoupling is complete when the partners have defined themselves and are defined by others as separate and independent of each other - when being partners is no longer a major source of identity'.[10]

See also

References

  1. ^ "Breakup". Dictionary.com. Retrieved 2012-05-28. 
  2. ^ John H. Harvey, Perspectives on Loss (1998) p. 106
  3. ^ Harvey, p. 106
  4. ^ Lee, L. (1984). "Sequences in Separation: A Framework for Investigating Endings of the Personal (Romantic) Relationship". Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 1 (1): 49–73.  
  5. ^ Steve Duck et al, The Basics of Communications (2011) p. 151 Table 6.2
  6. ^ Hill, Charles T.; Rubin Zick; Peplau Letita Anne (1976). "Breakups Before Marriage: The End of 103 Affairs". Journal of Social Issues 32: 147–168.  
  7. ^ Vaughan, Diane (1986). Uncoupling – Turning Points in Intimate Relationships. Oxford University Press.   p. 81 and p. 218n
  8. ^ Vaughan, p. 60
  9. ^ Vaughan, p. 154
  10. ^ a b Vaughan, p. 6
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